Archive for October, 2009

I have an 18 mo daughter and her dad, who lives in PA, has never seen her. (I left him and moved back to WY when I was pregnant b/c he was smoking pot all the time.) I filed for child support 1 year ago and he has been stalling by not returning paper work and he has yet to take his paternity test. It will come back positive when he does. In a recent email, he said he wants to sign over his rights- otherwise, he will want partial custody. He is in a new relationship and the woman he is with sent me an email a few months ago in which she said terrible things about my daughter and I. My daughter needs the support of her father, but I am uncomfortable with the idea of him getting partial custody. I am okay with him having visitation though. What are my rights? Is there a way to get at least minimum support if he signs over his rights? Is there a way to maintain full custody of my daughter? I am not married, she is not being adopted and her dad is not on the birth certificate.
The dad is Shoshoni and I am Northern Arapaho. My daughter is enrolled in my tribe. Will this help at all?
He is not employed, his gf supports him. But he does get a tribal per capita check every month. The courts have already established a monthy payment (minimum) and he owes backpay, but he is stalling on the paternity test and (as I said earlier) threatening to give up his paternal rights.
Also, he has a new son with his current girlfriend. As far as I know, they are not married. I don't know how/if this will affect anything.
I was researching and was wondering, What is a voluntary relinquishment affidavit? What are the requirments of signing one?
Thank you so much, I appreciate any insight into this extrememly complicated matter.

I am currently expecting and the father to be has decided he does not want to be apart of is and is denying that it is his and saying that he is not going to take a paternity test. Can I do anything before the baby is born so that way he will have to do the paternity test when it is born?

Briefly here's my friend's situation. The mother of this child had a baby, said it was his, moved across the country, and started him on child support. A whole lot of child support. He doesn't think the baby's his and wants a paternity test which she's constantly denied him. She also foraged his name on the birth certificate. Can she continue to deny the test to keep collecting child support? The court's look like they're not doing anything because his name is on the birth certificate.

Can anyone recommend a good home paternity test kit.

My exgirlfriend says that she is pregnant. Her friends as well. We've been done for a few weeks. Yes we had sex but I dumped her because of suspected cheating. Now I am 17 and she is 15. So a pregnancy is something I don't want.

So can you get a test done to see who the father is?

Also when can you tell when someone got pregnant?

If a girl goes with two guys, and gets pregnant, would it be seen as the last guys child?

She says she is 3 weeks pregnant.

My father wants to get a paternity test so that he could eventually get custody of his child, however he delivered his child himself thats why he hasn't gotten one yet. However, the mother will not comply with him apparently, so must both parents be present at the time of the paternity test?

I am in this little situation where a friend of mine has a child, but a few years has gone by because her parents did not approve of the relationship (it was an interracial relationship). So after she got older and got a place of her own she say the father in the store and told him how old his son was (he already knew he had a son with her).

Now he is saying he is not the father after he saw their son and spent almost of month with him bonding. Now all of a sudden he says the child is not his. The only thing I could tell her was to take a DNA test, but he does not want to take one. I believe he knows deep down this is his child. So my question is when they attend court when the judge ask him if he believes the child is his and he says no, then when the judge also ask if he's willing to take a DNA test and he says no could the courts make him take the test considering she is on public assistance from the government? Does the court have the power to do that for the sake of the child parentage.

(I would greatly appreciate if some family attorneys were able to answer my question, but anyone who knows the answer feel free to answer)

Thank you in advance!!

My long lost sister and I recently reunited after 16 years of being separated. We share the same mother and my father's name is on her birth certificate. About 7-8 years ago, a DNA test was performed to determine if, in fact, she was my father's daughter. (Making her my 1st and only full blooded sibling) However, our parent's versions of the results of that test are very very different. I was wondering if there are records of this test and who may have access to them. Alternatively, maybe an AFFORDABLE sibling DNA test could tell the truth, however, I dont have hundreds to spend so I am not really sure what my options are when it comes to finding the truth. HELP!

Wondering what the laws are in WI regarding getting back child support once the new DNA test proved who his father is.
No, I'm not trying to recoup or 'get even' with his dad. I don't need his money. My son called me asking about it,, that's why I posted this. and yes, it most likely was blood tests back then not DNA. But i knew all along who his father was!

she cheated on her husband and he was proven NOT to be the father with a test and her lover wants a test but she cursed him out and told him that was not neccessary. What's going on with this picture???
her hubby signed the birth certificate and she is in love with the lover so why wont she give him a dna?

My friend had a baby, and is claiming that it is mine. But the kid looks nothing like me! Should I ask for proof? I don't want to get took.
I'm a woman!
I don't want to be rude.

I don't think my wife is the mother to our children. They look nothing alike and I was having an affair when they were conceived.

Do you think I should just ask her to take a test or just assume she's the mother?

if you know, please provide me with the statute from the Texas Family code that address the question.

A dna test came back with results of 89%, is there a possibility that another family member of the presumed father, being the father? Is that enough certainty to have to pay child support? Should other family members be tested?

ok, my boyfriend's brother who i love, just got summons for child support and a paternity test.
it is between him and some other guy, now here are the problems: she doesn't have a job and wants him to pay for hospital bills (the baby was born a yr ago) food, her clothes, her car insurance and payments, all the babies things and all her bills, adding up to 750$ a month!
I find all that ridiculous! My father paid child support for me at 250$ a month and he was a detective, it's not like he couldn't afford it my mother just didn't rob him blind.

So I guess my questions are can she even give right on why he should pay all of this if he is the father when she doesn't have a job
and he is now living in Miami as a contractor Miami is seven hrs away, he wants to postpone having to come up there to take the test to await the results of the other guys test in hope he won't have to drive seven hours. Is there anyway he can request this?
I would love some helpful logical answers, Thanks.
And if he is the father he has already said he will pay what is necessary to make his son happy and healthy, he's not cheap he just wants to be fair. He's a good guy and is responsible.
alright well thank you everyone that was helpful he is going to check out the calculator and he feels much better knowing that all her demands can't be met, he is more than happy to pay for the child if it is his. And for all of you who are just giving me useless answers like it's none of your business 1. he is right here and just doesn't have an account so i posted this for him, thats enough of your petty annoyances and for all of you who think she is being fair 2. i know what its like to grow up without a father and not a lot of money it's hard but my mother cared enough about me to get of her ass and get a job to help cover the rest of the bills (i.e. this woman hasn't worked in over a year so just chill)
oh! and i'll give best answer to whoever was fair and helped the most THANKS!

after 16 years i am being told i may be the father of a child. paternity has never been proven. i have to go for test to see if i am father. the state just started looking for me in this matter. I dont mind paying support (if test prove i am father). It isnt fair to the child or me though. If i knew i had a child i would love to have been in his life. I won custody of my son when he was 5 from a previous relationship. its not like i have been running and hiding from this, it just came up last month. I hope the court doesnt try to say i must pay for the last 15 yrs though. anyone have knowledge in massachusetts law in this matter? like i said i havent been adjudicated as father yet nor has a support order been ordered by a court yet. like i said had i known i had a child i would have gone for joint custody years ago. any help would be greately appreciated. please only respond if you have knowledge in this area of the law please.

We want to prepare for the joy of a child but she has history of mental illness.

I was just got a summons for a paternity test / child support from a woman I have never heard of. Once I started to look over the papers, it turns out that its for someone other than me, but there's a line drawn threw it and next to it hand written is my name. But it has my birthday on it typed. Is someone playing a joke on me? Also it shows that it was from 2002. I called the phone numbers and told them my name and they said that they have no idea what I'm talking about. Do I ignore this or go to the date posted? It's alot to take in right now. I just need some advice. Do I goto the paternity summons or ignore this?

My acquaintance questions the paternity of his 7 month old son. The child's mother has passed away. He heard that the test costs thousands. That does not sound right to me. He does not want to use an over the counter kit. What is the real approximate cost and are there any agencies that do this for free for people who are indigent?

I signed as father without DNA I know dumb on my part. It was 14 years ago and after signing I was told immediately that the child was not my child by the mother, but of coarse from that point on I was responsible for the support for which I paid and continue to pay today. I was served with papers this month from the AG that this woman wants an increase in support. Can someone please let me know if there is a way I can get the court to allow me to have a DNA test. I really would like to be this whole situation to rest and know without a doubt if I am the father of this child. PLEASE HELP

I mean, since without evolutionary science as an interpretive tool, none of the biological sciences, including genetics, can be understood. A paternity test works off of showing genetic heritage. The exact same science is used to show apes and humans share a common ancestor. So, since creationists reject the common ancestor science, do they reject paternity tests as well?

my husband cheated on me with a co-worker, now she is pregnant and I asked him for a DNA test because she was married. What can he do if she doesn't let him take a paternity test? can he do something by law? thanks for your help!

But his name isn't on the birth certificate, but the mother is 150% sure. He looks exactly like the father. We live in Ohio
The child really wants to know who is father is

A man had a girlfriend. They weren't monagamous. They broke up, and didn't speak for 5 years. She had a child after their breakup, and the math makes it look like he is the father. But she didn't inform him that she was even pregnant. He did not know until 5 years after their breakup that she was pregnant and had a child.

So, she waited until the child was 5 years old, and then decided to get the authorities to pay child support. He claims that the child is not his, and requested a dna test. The court denied his request.

It is now 4 years later. The child is 9.

The man in question is a roofer, and is able to find work only periodically. He has had much trouble keeping up with child support, and has been before the court and punished a couple of times for it. Both times, he again requested a dna test, claiming that the child is not his. His request has been consistently denied.

He was recently arrested again for failure to pay. His court appointed attorney says that his chances of getting a dna test are almost nil. The attorney says that in Texas, at 0-3 years, they will usually grant the request for a dna test. At 3-5 years, chances are 50/50 that they will grant a request for a dna test. But at 5 years plus, the attorney says his chances of getting a dna test are close to zero.

Is there anything he can do here to get a dna test, that doesn't require money? This is a desperate situation. He has now got a wife and stepson. His wife was recently shown to have a serious medical condition, and needs him at home.
Oops. I meant to say, "she decided to get the authorities to make him pay child support".