child support help?
ok, my boyfriend's brother who i love, just got summons for child support and a paternity test.
it is between him and some other guy, now here are the problems: she doesn't have a job and wants him to pay for hospital bills (the baby was born a yr ago) food, her clothes, her car insurance and payments, all the babies things and all her bills, adding up to 750$ a month!
I find all that ridiculous! My father paid child support for me at 250$ a month and he was a detective, it's not like he couldn't afford it my mother just didn't rob him blind.
So I guess my questions are can she even give right on why he should pay all of this if he is the father when she doesn't have a job
and he is now living in Miami as a contractor Miami is seven hrs away, he wants to postpone having to come up there to take the test to await the results of the other guys test in hope he won't have to drive seven hours. Is there anyway he can request this?
I would love some helpful logical answers, Thanks.
And if he is the father he has already said he will pay what is necessary to make his son happy and healthy, he's not cheap he just wants to be fair. He's a good guy and is responsible.
alright well thank you everyone that was helpful he is going to check out the calculator and he feels much better knowing that all her demands can't be met, he is more than happy to pay for the child if it is his. And for all of you who are just giving me useless answers like it's none of your business 1. he is right here and just doesn't have an account so i posted this for him, thats enough of your petty annoyances and for all of you who think she is being fair 2. i know what its like to grow up without a father and not a lot of money it's hard but my mother cared enough about me to get of her ass and get a job to help cover the rest of the bills (i.e. this woman hasn't worked in over a year so just chill)
oh! and i'll give best answer to whoever was fair and helped the most THANKS!
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The state will determine his amount of child support, based on actual costs, and both incomes — not on what she wants so she can continue not working. Also, it’s only based on actual costs for the child, not a car, insurance, etc.
He can "google" child support calculator for your state to get
some basic idea of what the courts will demand. Plus – add in a year of back child support, since they will ask for that, too.
They may make him pay for half of the hospital bill, if he is proven to be the biological father.
If he’s been court-ordered to take the test, he can’t postpone it, but he should be able to have the test done in Miami where he is now, rather than incurring the extra expense.
Maybe you can remind him not to have unprotected sex with women he doesn’t care about — keeps this sort of thing from cropping up in the future, know what I mean??
well there is a child support calculator that does it fairly. She can’t just choose how much money she gets/month. If he is the child’s father he will have to support the child. You play you pay.
It seems reasonable to me — I assume he has an attorney, correct? The attorney should be able to arrange this for him.
But her demands are just that….demands. She won’t get it. Whichever guy turns out to be the father, child support will be a percentage of his salary – it has nothing to do with what she wants. Whatever the amount ends up being she won’t be able to live on it.
Ok if he is the dad he has to pay half the bills and child support. But child support depends on how much he makes and just because she doesnt have a job now doesnt mean she should nto be supporting her own child aas well. the judge will figure an income for her based on her past employemnt and they will pay about 50-50 unless he makes a lot more then she does…then he will end up paying in more for the child…have him go for joint custody go 50-50 there thats the best option.
Boy, I don’t know, I think you should post this question in Legal Help. I am sure some one on there can answer it for you.
Good Luck!
For one thing, child support is just that child support. She can not collect money from him to pay her car payments or insurance. The court would decide on an amount depending on how much money he earns. He would have no control over how she spends it but it would be a court ordered amount. Second thing, I would not worry about it until you know who the father is, no use worrying over spilled milk.
Just stay out of it as best as you could. This girl is raising a child without the biological father and thats worth more then a million bucks. It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t work she just had a baby. Whatever the court says is going to be more then fair.
This is NONE of your business.
What the JUDGE decides is fair, is fair.
End of story.
And butt the hell out. You can’t raise a child on $750 measley dollars a month.
From what I know in California, it doesn’t work that way. The child support amount is calculated by the mothers wages, fathers wages and the time each of them have the child. It is put into a computer program called the Disomaster and it prints out the child support amount. Now in CA if would have to pay half of the child care expenses if there were any and supply medical and dental insurance for the child.
The court does not look at any other expenses that I am aware of.
My suggestion, get a lawyer. The money that he pays for a lawyer may save him thousands of dollars in the long run.
Sorry to say this about your bro in law’s baby mama… what a b***h!!! Anyways… first of all…. no, she cant make him pay for all of that.. she can sue him some sort of way… but not really! I’d suggest he takes that test as soon as possible and not postponing it! First of all if they were married for more than a year or so, she can try to get spouses support, but if it was just a fling, sorry baby but she needs to get her a job! So all he really got to worry about is paying child support and health insurance, which in the situation that she is in.. she neds to get her some medicaid! So yea I really hate chicks that try to get pregnant cuz that’s a way of getting money, what a loser! Good luck to your bro in law, I really do wish him the best and I am very sorry for the situation that he is in and hopefully all will go well!
If He is proven to be the father He should be only paying for expenses that have to do with the baby ,not her personal life expenses.Actually ,he should only pay child support ,and the money from the child support is whats to be used for the baby’s expenses ,and stuff for the baby.
Family Law – Child Support – Child support calculation
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What is child support used for?
Child support covers everything a child needs, "and even more", during the growth and formative years. Keep the following in mind:
A parent’s first and principal obligation is to support his or her minor children according to the parent’s circumstances and station in life; and
Children should share in the standard of living of both parents. Thus, the amount of a child support award is more than a question of "bare necessities."
If the child has a wealthy parent, that child is entitled to, and therefore ?needs? something more than the bare necessities of life. Where the supporting parent enjoys a lifestyle that far exceeds the custodial parent’s living standard, child support must "to some degree" reflect that more "opulent lifestyle." This is so even though, as a practical matter, the child support payments will incidentally benefit others in the custodial household whom the payor parent has no obligation to support (e.g., custodial parent owed no spousal support, adult children, or children from custodial parent’s other relationships).
Children should share in the standard of living of both parents. Child support may therefore appropriately improve the standard of living of the custodial household to improve the lives of the children. Children are entitled to share in non-custodial parent’s "elevated standard of living" despite custodial parent’s substantially lower income. Awarding supported children a percentage of a non-custodial parent’s future bonuses ensures they will share in his standard of living.
First let me say your mother’s choice to accept 250 a month was hers and hers alone, that doesn’t make any woman that wants MORE for THEIR CHILD..GREEDY or ROBBIN THE MAN BLIND…CHILDREN ARE EXPENSIVE…Daycare can run atleast $700 a month on a one year old…I can’t speak for Miami but in MD the state uses a set formula to calculate how much the NON-GUARDIAN can afford to pay based on BOTH INCOMES..he won’t be paying her car note and all that other stuff..but the money will go to her to support the child…if it turns out to be his child and he feels she’s unfit and that she’s not using the money to give the child a better living than he can always go after custody..but MOST MEN don’t want that responsibility…
If he’s been summons…HE HAS TO GO or he’ll get a FTA and a warrant can and mostly likely will be issued for his arrest..he can ask for a postponement if needed…
If she is on government assistance…chances are they will make the father pay them some money back..but it depends…
But if you don’t have a child…you don’t understand the cost associated and I’m sure you wouldn’t think $250 was alot to take care of a child..
Diapers, milk, clothes (they grow every season), shoes, daycare, shelter, gas and electric, food…believe me it ISN’T CHEAP…so don’t be so quick to judge…
But he does have rights and if he cooperates with the courts his rights will be served upon him…and NO he shouldn’t pay her car payment/clothes/etc…
they will go by his income and hers and if she does not work they will cosider her makeing minimum wage’s and base it of of that it does not matter about her car or house payment or other bills she want to get payed filthy hoe the only insurance he can be made pay is health and thats it she came scream support my dead beat azz all she want but she will only get what she needs for the child and the way they set child support is all bills considered the basic needs for life and both him and her will get eqaul deductions for that then they will set the support but he must show up of that test when he is requested to if he dont they will issue a warrant for his arrest
child support is calculated with both parents taken in to consideration, if she can not provide an income they will use a base which is usually minimum wage X 40 hours whether she has a job or not. each state has there own calculators.
She was looking for a meal ticket and used the poor child as a tool/weapon. A lot of woman do this and it is the saddest trend, the only one whom suffers is the child.
He should be able to get a test done closer to his home at another lab facility.
Good Luck and if the child is his I hope he tries his best to be a part of the childs life, it sounds like it could be a long hard road. usually these kind of mothers never stop this dysfunctional behavior.