Ok.. So here is the deal...
I was dating this girl on and off for a couple of years. Within the last 7 months, the relationship was long distance. I was going to see her once a month. She had assured me that she was on Birth Control. She told me in May that she was pregnant. I decided to move out to be with her and help her through the pregnancy. What I did not know was that she was binge drinking behind my back after finding out she was "pregnant" and continued to do so. When I moved out there to be with her, I started noticing her behavior was extremely inconsistent and that my beer was disappearing from the fridge. I also found her asking me regularly for permission to drink a beer. I told her that one glass of wine or one beer seldomly was not a problem. However, if I left the house or went outside for something, I would come back and notice more and more beer gone and her behavior becoming increasingly violent. I would also notice that upon waking up on saturday mornings she had already been awake for quite some time and was completely intoxicated. There would be 7-8 beer cans on her computer desk and she could not sit up straight, or even complete a rational sentence for that matter. One saturday morning, my mother had called me to see how I was doing. Unfortunately, she happened to pick my phone while I was in the shower. She was completely intoxicated, fighting, and cursing at my mother. I had no idea that my mother had called until she came into to town to visit a week and a half later and told me the details of the phone conversation and that she was completely intoxicated while yelling at my mother. After meeting with my mother and hearing the details, I had went home and spoke to my girlfriend. I was so furious with her that I just completely let her have it for speaking to my mother like that while being intoxicated and showing her that level of disrespect. I had also ripped into her about her constant binge drinking and what self respecting mother would binge drink like that during a pregnancy! I had told her that I didnt appreciate the level of disrespect she was showing my family, myself, and herself for that matter. I told her that I did not want to be a part of such a volatile relationship. Especially one where a mother would constantly argue with me about her drinking being ok while pregnant. I told her that if she wanted to continue her lifestyle, she would have to continue it alone; because I wanted NO part of a lifestyle like that. With that being said, a few days later; I packed up everything that I brought with me and left while she was at work. Please note, that I did not say anything about this or leave any kind of note upon leaving her and going back home.

Since then, she continues to call me and send me text messages on a daily basis. Most of them are late at night and I suspect that she has been drinking. I have decided to keep these messages by sending them to my laptop via a sound recording software. She has mentioned that she intends to sue me for child support. Is there anything I can do to help my case? Or possibly avoid payment of child support? Would it be possible to sue her for custody of the child if I present this evidence to the court and after a positive paternity test?

Please note that she never showed me proof of a positive pregnancy test, or proof of any prenatal check ups.

What do you suggest I do in this case? Am I totally screwed?

Any information would be greatly helpful!

Thank you,

Chris

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