regarding paternity, child support, and custody?
A mother recieves positve pregnancy test and the father of the baby replies "I want nothing to do with your baby or you anymore. I think it's very selfish of you to bring a child into this world without a father." He leaves, abandons the pregnancy, the birth, the child, the mother, for six years. In hopes that he has changed and/or gotten his life together, the mother contacts him and invites him to meet his 5 1/2 year old daughter. He makes 3 visits, clearly has few parenting skills, has not had contact w/ any of his other children for years. Mom realizes perhaps she has made a mistake inviting him in and voices a desire to decrease length of future visits due to adverse, unhappy behavioural reactions in their child. He threatens to gain half-time custody legally. He does not have a leg to stand on in court to receive 50% custody. Even if he is awarded any time is he or is he not responsible for back child support of the six years he was absent?
I am not looking for free $$$. I have
provided a great life for my daughter without him.I thought she might benefit from getting to know him. In 3 visits, numerous & lengthy phone calls, and several emails-he has made it clear he is a liar, mind-game player, con-artist and totally concerned with his own needs, desires and protection of his warped narcissistic life that is cradled in a thick web of non-truth that he continues to weave. I just want to protect my child.
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even if he was not involved in the childs life he has been responsible since birth for the childs well being i would offer to sue him for child support in exchange for visitation or tell him you will gladly forgive him the debt in exchange for a signed power of attorney reliquishing him of parental rights
He’s responsible for child support whether he chooses to be a part of the child’s life or not. Get a lawyer.
IF he knew about the child, he’s responsible for back child support, and I HIGHLY DOUBT he’d get any type of custody. He MAY be awarded some visitation if there isn’t a strong reason not to allow it (Drugs, alcoholism, violence etc..), however…if the child doesn’t even know him, they may set up supervised visitation at first.
Make him take you to court for visitation! YOU however, need to go to your local child support enforcement agency and start collecting that support! ALL they do is get child support. They don’t deal with deciding his visitation rights. He’d have to do that on his own.
he needs to pay up if he wants any part get a lawyer and stick to him. fight fight fight!!!
i am an expert on this girl (been there done that) and guess what a**hole YOU ARE RESPONSIBE ( guys like that piss me off) But ya he is responsible an you don’t even need a lawer contact you states division of child support and they can help you good luck! to u or her whom ever it is
All I know is that if you had a custody order against him the whole time, yes, he can legally go to jail for it if he doesn’t pay. I think your case sounds pretty wishy-washy, though. I mean, if he hasn’t had anything to do with her and clearly doesn’t want to, he’s probably just being an *ss.
Yes he is responsible for those years. I know because I have dealt with the court for many years over child support with my sons father. The only thing that stopped him from having to pay his back child support was that he was in prison other then that there is no good excuse why a man should not be responsible for paying back child support.
The deadbeat is responsible for child support from the day the child was born. Get everything you can from him we can all use a little more help!!
You can sue him for the child support no matter what. For men, child support is the penalty for having sex.
Every state is different! Some go by if he is on the birth certificate….if hes not on the bc they go by when the woman files to get the support! Depends on the state and judge! Been there done that!
A majority of the issues in this case would likely pend on in which State that the said case would be filed in . Another factor to be considered would be if the father hired a lawyer .
A judge would have to rule on weather or not the father must pay money for past due child support based on the fathers evidence of having paid any presented in court .
In my opinion most State laws will allow the father to have visitation rights , and would most likely grant joint custody
unless it was proven that the father is unfit .
After six years, I believe this is abandonment. Depending on what state you live in, support varies, especially if you received state aid, in which case the state might have more incentive to help you get back support. I really hope your child receives money due her. Blessings to you both.
I hate people who work the system for free money.
Since he has admitted to his own "short comings" in emails, I trust that you’ve kept them, just in case. There is really nothing he can do after 6 years except, possibly, opening himself up for years of back support.
Absolutely the judge would provide for back child support. However, the mother was dumb enough to open the can of worms without asking what he did about his other children. Now she should spend some time teaching him some parenting skills or suggest somewhere he can go to get some aid in that area. Alternatively, you both seek the advice of a counselor to minimize the problems created in the child.
I recently went through a similar incident only more confusing and a lot depends on the state. The custody would have to be filed where the child resides , and is he listed as the father on the birth certificate? If so he has a right to the child and my understanding is he can get her if he were to see her out and not have kidnapping charges. My attorney told me that a father that doesn’t pay doesn’t usually get custody, however visitation can’t be witheld because of non payment. My advice Get an Attorney in your state thats familiar with your local laws. Good Luck
Contact you states Child Support and Enforcement (CSE) and get a genetic test done. Then you can go after support and visitation.
He may not be a good part of the child’s life but remember that your daughter also has aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents on that side of her family as well. Maybe work withing them a little will be a good step.