Im 18 almost 19 & Im 29 weeks pregnant, the father of my baby knows Im pregnant & refuses to accept that, he says the baby isn't his & Im lying, but I wasn't with any1 else when I conceived. He told me to leave him alone & stay out of his life, my parents think I should leave him alone because my baby & I are better off without him, but my doctor & a couple other people think I should get a paternity test & file for child support. I don't know what to do. I want to do what's best for my baby, should I ask for a paternity test & hope that he either signs his rights over or has changed or should I live & let live? I also think my baby & I are better off without him in our lives I just need some more advice.

OK MY BOYFRIENDS EX IS PREGNANT & CLAIMS ITS HIS, OK SO HE IS GOIN THROUGH ALL THE BASICS TIL BIRTH TO DO THE DNA, BUT YESTERDAY SHE CALLS TO SAY THE DOC WANTS TO PERFORM A TEST FOR DOWN SNYDROME NOT ONLY ON HER BUT HTE UNBORN BABY & POSSIBLY EVEN THE FATHER, NOW I HAVE GIVEN BIRTH TO 2 CHILDREN & HAVE NEVER HAD A DOCTOR WITH THIS REQUEST, SHOULD'N THERE BE A REASON, DID HE FIND SOMETHING SOMEWHERE? ALSO THAT TEST IS PERFORMED BY AMNIO, CORRECT SO CAN'T THEY GO AHEAD & DO THE DNA THEN AS WELL IT THAT IS THE CASE?

The mother is not cooperative, nor does she allow vistiatation right to the father. He signed the birth certificate under false pretenses (she later told him, he was a dam fool...& the child is not even his) Over the years he has served time and has a felony conviction for non-criminal child support. Right now it's hard to get a job, because of the felony. He needs help with an attorney advice and what can we do to solve the problem. We know a paternity test is needed, but the state won't grant him one. It must be paid out of pocket. Is there someone with really strong legal advice or know of a attorney who will take his case "pro bono" in Missouri. Serious legal advice needed. And how can he get the state to pay for a paternity test. Thank you all very much.

A mother recieves positve pregnancy test and the father of the baby replies "I want nothing to do with your baby or you anymore. I think it's very selfish of you to bring a child into this world without a father." He leaves, abandons the pregnancy, the birth, the child, the mother, for six years. In hopes that he has changed and/or gotten his life together, the mother contacts him and invites him to meet his 5 1/2 year old daughter. He makes 3 visits, clearly has few parenting skills, has not had contact w/ any of his other children for years. Mom realizes perhaps she has made a mistake inviting him in and voices a desire to decrease length of future visits due to adverse, unhappy behavioural reactions in their child. He threatens to gain half-time custody legally. He does not have a leg to stand on in court to receive 50% custody. Even if he is awarded any time is he or is he not responsible for back child support of the six years he was absent?
I am not looking for free $$$. I have
provided a great life for my daughter without him.I thought she might benefit from getting to know him. In 3 visits, numerous & lengthy phone calls, and several emails-he has made it clear he is a liar, mind-game player, con-artist and totally concerned with his own needs, desires and protection of his warped narcissistic life that is cradled in a thick web of non-truth that he continues to weave. I just want to protect my child.

I posted another question about an issue that my fiancee and I are having w/ his ex-wife, but I also wanted to ask this as well. My fiancee isn't 100% sure that their two kids are his. His ex-wife absolutely refuses to allow the children to have a Paternity test done. She won't say why, but uses the children instead, she told my fiancee that if he wants to have the tests done, then he will have to tell the children 10 & 11, why he wants the test. I believe that if there's nothing to hide, then she shouldn't care if they are tested or not, considering that we're the ones who are paying for the tests. And in fact, the kids never have to know any differently if something bad does come out of the tests. He would still pay child support and buy them anything they needed, but it would allow him to get her under a little more control. He's had problems w/ her ever since they got a divorce, which was more than 8 years ago.
For the guy who said that my fiancee was a loser...well buddy, that "loser" is overseas fighting for your American Rights. As to his rights, she is a very demanding person, one that if you screw w/ her, she'll screw you 10x's worse than you did to her in the first place. He loves his children very much, but he's done allowing her to ruin his life. If by chance, and I don't want it to be, but if one of them or both aren't his, then perhaps she'll get off of her high horse and start acting like a human being to him and myself. He has no problem in paying child support because that's not the issue. The issue is her demeaning mannerisms towards my fiancee and myself. I truly believe that if her own family says that she's mean and a b*tch, then there is definitely something wrong. He's paying child support because he wants those 2 kids to have things that she can not afford to get them. She doesn't appreciate anything that he does and maybe have this test done will change her mind.