My husband has never denied his son. He has always paid the child support and we have always provided insurance on him. However in the 6 years we have known that he is my husbands, he has seen him 4 times. The mother has 3 other children by 3 other men. She originally told my husband that her 2nd child was his, and when she got pregnant with the 3rd child (now discovered to be his), she told him she had been cheating on him and that it was this other guys. They split and she went and married this other guy. Then they split and she filed to get paternity tests done. That's when we found out the 2nd child was not his, but the 3rd child was.
We are completely fed up at this point, as she doesn't work at all, and she lives off the system. My husband would like to sign over rights, but we've been told that he would still have to pay child support. Does anyone know if this is true? Also, does she have to agree to this, or can it just be done?
Just to answer a few of the comments all in one statement: He doesn't necessarily want to leave this child "fatherless". She refuses to let my husband see his son because myself and our 2 girls are in the picture. So, my girls have a brother that they don't even know because he has a stubborn hateful mother.
To comment on back child support, that won't happen. The child support has been garnished from every one of my husbands checks, and even one years tax return to pay the 1 year that we didn't know he was my husbands. So, we have plenty of proof that all payments were made, and that my husband has taken care of his obligations from day one.
Back to the comment about her getting married...that would most likely never happen, because she doesn't want to lose the social security she receives on her 2nd child. Not to mention, probably half of her state aid.

Originally I served a court order to appear for a hearing to the mother of my son. I was told it was OK to serve her brother she had lived with. Well I served her brother, the court date came, and she did not show up. The Judge said I had to serve her the court papers directly. I served her with court papers and an order for her to not leave the state, that the county I reside in has jurisdiction over custody, and to cooperate with genetic testing. A couple days later she left the state. If I ask for a warrant here in Arizona, and she lives in Georgia, it will not do any good since it will only be a civil arrest warrant. They only extradite on criminal arrest warrants. What am I to do? Am I going to have to file for paternity in the state she lives in now? Are they going to ask me to fly to Georgia for the hearing?

ok, my boyfriend's brother who i love, just got summons for child support and a paternity test.
it is between him and some other guy, now here are the problems: she doesn't have a job and wants him to pay for hospital bills (the baby was born a yr ago) food, her clothes, her car insurance and payments, all the babies things and all her bills, adding up to 750$ a month!
I find all that ridiculous! My father paid child support for me at 250$ a month and he was a detective, it's not like he couldn't afford it my mother just didn't rob him blind.

So I guess my questions are can she even give right on why he should pay all of this if he is the father when she doesn't have a job
and he is now living in Miami as a contractor Miami is seven hrs away, he wants to postpone having to come up there to take the test to await the results of the other guys test in hope he won't have to drive seven hours. Is there anyway he can request this?
I would love some helpful logical answers, Thanks.
And if he is the father he has already said he will pay what is necessary to make his son happy and healthy, he's not cheap he just wants to be fair. He's a good guy and is responsible.
alright well thank you everyone that was helpful he is going to check out the calculator and he feels much better knowing that all her demands can't be met, he is more than happy to pay for the child if it is his. And for all of you who are just giving me useless answers like it's none of your business 1. he is right here and just doesn't have an account so i posted this for him, thats enough of your petty annoyances and for all of you who think she is being fair 2. i know what its like to grow up without a father and not a lot of money it's hard but my mother cared enough about me to get of her ass and get a job to help cover the rest of the bills (i.e. this woman hasn't worked in over a year so just chill)
oh! and i'll give best answer to whoever was fair and helped the most THANKS!