Ok.. So here is the deal...
I was dating this girl on and off for a couple of years. Within the last 7 months, the relationship was long distance. I was going to see her once a month. She had assured me that she was on Birth Control. She told me in May that she was pregnant. I decided to move out to be with her and help her through the pregnancy. What I did not know was that she was binge drinking behind my back after finding out she was "pregnant" and continued to do so. When I moved out there to be with her, I started noticing her behavior was extremely inconsistent and that my beer was disappearing from the fridge. I also found her asking me regularly for permission to drink a beer. I told her that one glass of wine or one beer seldomly was not a problem. However, if I left the house or went outside for something, I would come back and notice more and more beer gone and her behavior becoming increasingly violent. I would also notice that upon waking up on saturday mornings she had already been awake for quite some time and was completely intoxicated. There would be 7-8 beer cans on her computer desk and she could not sit up straight, or even complete a rational sentence for that matter. One saturday morning, my mother had called me to see how I was doing. Unfortunately, she happened to pick my phone while I was in the shower. She was completely intoxicated, fighting, and cursing at my mother. I had no idea that my mother had called until she came into to town to visit a week and a half later and told me the details of the phone conversation and that she was completely intoxicated while yelling at my mother. After meeting with my mother and hearing the details, I had went home and spoke to my girlfriend. I was so furious with her that I just completely let her have it for speaking to my mother like that while being intoxicated and showing her that level of disrespect. I had also ripped into her about her constant binge drinking and what self respecting mother would binge drink like that during a pregnancy! I had told her that I didnt appreciate the level of disrespect she was showing my family, myself, and herself for that matter. I told her that I did not want to be a part of such a volatile relationship. Especially one where a mother would constantly argue with me about her drinking being ok while pregnant. I told her that if she wanted to continue her lifestyle, she would have to continue it alone; because I wanted NO part of a lifestyle like that. With that being said, a few days later; I packed up everything that I brought with me and left while she was at work. Please note, that I did not say anything about this or leave any kind of note upon leaving her and going back home.

Since then, she continues to call me and send me text messages on a daily basis. Most of them are late at night and I suspect that she has been drinking. I have decided to keep these messages by sending them to my laptop via a sound recording software. She has mentioned that she intends to sue me for child support. Is there anything I can do to help my case? Or possibly avoid payment of child support? Would it be possible to sue her for custody of the child if I present this evidence to the court and after a positive paternity test?

Please note that she never showed me proof of a positive pregnancy test, or proof of any prenatal check ups.

What do you suggest I do in this case? Am I totally screwed?

Any information would be greatly helpful!

Thank you,

Chris

I have an 18 mo daughter and her dad, who lives in PA, has never seen her. (I left him and moved back to WY when I was pregnant b/c he was smoking pot all the time.) I filed for child support 1 year ago and he has been stalling by not returning paper work and he has yet to take his paternity test. It will come back positive when he does. In a recent email, he said he wants to sign over his rights- otherwise, he will want partial custody. He is in a new relationship and the woman he is with sent me an email a few months ago in which she said terrible things about my daughter and I. My daughter needs the support of her father, but I am uncomfortable with the idea of him getting partial custody. I am okay with him having visitation though. What are my rights? Is there a way to get at least minimum support if he signs over his rights? Is there a way to maintain full custody of my daughter? I am not married, she is not being adopted and her dad is not on the birth certificate.
The dad is Shoshoni and I am Northern Arapaho. My daughter is enrolled in my tribe. Will this help at all?
He is not employed, his gf supports him. But he does get a tribal per capita check every month. The courts have already established a monthy payment (minimum) and he owes backpay, but he is stalling on the paternity test and (as I said earlier) threatening to give up his paternal rights.
Also, he has a new son with his current girlfriend. As far as I know, they are not married. I don't know how/if this will affect anything.
I was researching and was wondering, What is a voluntary relinquishment affidavit? What are the requirments of signing one?
Thank you so much, I appreciate any insight on this extrememly complicated matter.

I have an 18 mo daughter and her dad, who lives in PA, has never seen her. (I left him and moved back to WY when I was pregnant b/c he was smoking pot all the time.) I filed for child support 1 year ago and he has been stalling by not returning paper work and he has yet to take his paternity test. It will come back positive when he does. In a recent email, he said he wants to sign over his rights- otherwise, he will want partial custody. He is in a new relationship and the woman he is with sent me an email a few months ago in which she said terrible things about my daughter and I. My daughter needs the support of her father, but I am uncomfortable with the idea of him getting partial custody. I am okay with him having visitation though. What are my rights? Is there a way to get at least minimum support if he signs over his rights? Is there a way to maintain full custody of my daughter? I am not married, she is not being adopted and her dad is not on the birth certificate.
The dad is Shoshoni and I am Northern Arapaho. My daughter is enrolled in my tribe. Will this help at all?
He is not employed, his gf supports him. But he does get a tribal per capita check every month. The courts have already established a monthy payment (minimum) and he owes backpay, but he is stalling on the paternity test and (as I said earlier) threatening to give up his paternal rights.
Also, he has a new son with his current girlfriend. As far as I know, they are not married. I don't know how/if this will affect anything.
I was researching and was wondering, What is a voluntary relinquishment affidavit? What are the requirments of signing one?
Thank you so much, I appreciate any insight into this extrememly complicated matter.

A man had a girlfriend. They weren't monagamous. They broke up, and didn't speak for 5 years. She had a child after their breakup, and the math makes it look like he is the father. But she didn't inform him that she was even pregnant. He did not know until 5 years after their breakup that she was pregnant and had a child.

So, she waited until the child was 5 years old, and then decided to get the authorities to pay child support. He claims that the child is not his, and requested a dna test. The court denied his request.

It is now 4 years later. The child is 9.

The man in question is a roofer, and is able to find work only periodically. He has had much trouble keeping up with child support, and has been before the court and punished a couple of times for it. Both times, he again requested a dna test, claiming that the child is not his. His request has been consistently denied.

He was recently arrested again for failure to pay. His court appointed attorney says that his chances of getting a dna test are almost nil. The attorney says that in Texas, at 0-3 years, they will usually grant the request for a dna test. At 3-5 years, chances are 50/50 that they will grant a request for a dna test. But at 5 years plus, the attorney says his chances of getting a dna test are close to zero.

Is there anything he can do here to get a dna test, that doesn't require money? This is a desperate situation. He has now got a wife and stepson. His wife was recently shown to have a serious medical condition, and needs him at home.
Oops. I meant to say, "she decided to get the authorities to make him pay child support".

i had a few of my friends over and we all tag teamed my girlfriend. now we found out which one of us is the father and he doesnt want her to have the kid, but she wants to keep it.

i have to get a paternity test done on my child because my girlfriend recently broke the news that i might not be the dad... so i want to avoid child support and any other thing that might be coming my way because of this.