Ok.. So here is the deal...
I was dating this girl on and off for a couple of years. Within the last 7 months, the relationship was long distance. I was going to see her once a month. She had assured me that she was on Birth Control. She told me in May that she was pregnant. I decided to move out to be with her and help her through the pregnancy. What I did not know was that she was binge drinking behind my back after finding out she was "pregnant" and continued to do so. When I moved out there to be with her, I started noticing her behavior was extremely inconsistent and that my beer was disappearing from the fridge. I also found her asking me regularly for permission to drink a beer. I told her that one glass of wine or one beer seldomly was not a problem. However, if I left the house or went outside for something, I would come back and notice more and more beer gone and her behavior becoming increasingly violent. I would also notice that upon waking up on saturday mornings she had already been awake for quite some time and was completely intoxicated. There would be 7-8 beer cans on her computer desk and she could not sit up straight, or even complete a rational sentence for that matter. One saturday morning, my mother had called me to see how I was doing. Unfortunately, she happened to pick my phone while I was in the shower. She was completely intoxicated, fighting, and cursing at my mother. I had no idea that my mother had called until she came into to town to visit a week and a half later and told me the details of the phone conversation and that she was completely intoxicated while yelling at my mother. After meeting with my mother and hearing the details, I had went home and spoke to my girlfriend. I was so furious with her that I just completely let her have it for speaking to my mother like that while being intoxicated and showing her that level of disrespect. I had also ripped into her about her constant binge drinking and what self respecting mother would binge drink like that during a pregnancy! I had told her that I didnt appreciate the level of disrespect she was showing my family, myself, and herself for that matter. I told her that I did not want to be a part of such a volatile relationship. Especially one where a mother would constantly argue with me about her drinking being ok while pregnant. I told her that if she wanted to continue her lifestyle, she would have to continue it alone; because I wanted NO part of a lifestyle like that. With that being said, a few days later; I packed up everything that I brought with me and left while she was at work. Please note, that I did not say anything about this or leave any kind of note upon leaving her and going back home.

Since then, she continues to call me and send me text messages on a daily basis. Most of them are late at night and I suspect that she has been drinking. I have decided to keep these messages by sending them to my laptop via a sound recording software. She has mentioned that she intends to sue me for child support. Is there anything I can do to help my case? Or possibly avoid payment of child support? Would it be possible to sue her for custody of the child if I present this evidence to the court and after a positive paternity test?

Please note that she never showed me proof of a positive pregnancy test, or proof of any prenatal check ups.

What do you suggest I do in this case? Am I totally screwed?

Any information would be greatly helpful!

Thank you,

Chris

Here is the story I'm getting:

10 years after sleeping with someone once, wages begin getting garnished from his paycheck. He goes to court to find out what the deal is and is told that he missed his court appearance and therefore is now the legal guardian of a kid whose mom apparently put him on the birth certificate but never told him. She apparently never had any contact with him during the pregnancy then she showed him the kid once after it was born and mentioned he could be the dad but refused to get a paternity test. She said the kid didn't look like him, there could be a lot of dads, and then never contacted him again. The court appointed attorney says that they sent someone to his address to subpoena him as well as put in in the paper and he didn't show up so he is the legal guardian. He says he was no longer living at the address and never read it in the paper so he never knew he was supposed to show up to court. Both the court appointed attorney as well as a private lawyer hired years later tell him that there is a loophole in the law and because he did not show up to court, he is the legal guardian and must pay child support now no matter what; even if he was to obtain a negative paternity test now. This all took place in Texas to the best of my knowledge.

This sounds insane to me. Could this possibly be true?!?

I married my ex when I was young and foolish. I found out he was an abuser after the fact and left him after 3 months. I found out i was pregnant a week later. He had nothing to do with me during the pregnancy and no one in his family even contacted me until my son was a month old. I filed for divorce and he even requested a paternity test, yet he still wanted visitation. He only came to see my son 4 times in the first year, and not at all during the second year. Since then he only exercises his visitation about every 3-5 months. He has moved so many times I can't keep track, but know he lives about 6 1/2 hours away. He only calls when he is telling me he is exercising a visitation and even 9 out of 10 times he sends someone else to pick my son up, usually his mother, who has never forgiven me for divorcing her poor baby. I haven't actually laid eyes on this man for a year. I have written him a letter asking him to be more envolved, but he ignored it. How do I continue to deal with him
Just to add, my son is 10, my ex does nothing more than pay the 0 a month childsupport and he hasn't always done that. He doesn't keep medical insurance on him like he was ordered, he never helps with school supplies or clothes, and has done nothing but critisize my parenting, as if he is father of the year or something.
Also, his mother has shown up early before to pick my son up. I can't stand this woman, because she was right up in the middle of our divorce, speaking for my ex as if he had no voice, she made me out to be a whore and a bad mother, and has taken it upon herself to make decisions in my sons life while he was with her for the visitation. She has thrown a fit before when I don't let him go early, then other times she has shown up an hour or two late, without even a phone call. I can't stop her from picking him up, because the divorce decree allows it.

Can a paternity test be done during pregnancy? and if so How long does it need to be at least? And what do I need to do to get it done.

My exgirlfriend says that she is pregnant. Her friends as well. We've been done for a few weeks. Yes we had sex but I dumped her because of suspected cheating. Now I am 17 and she is 15. So a pregnancy is something I don't want.

So can you get a test done to see who the father is?

Also when can you tell when someone got pregnant?

If a girl goes with two guys, and gets pregnant, would it be seen as the last guys child?

She says she is 3 weeks pregnant.

My son is 8 months old and up until now i was pretty sure who his dad was until my mom pointed out how much she thinks he looks like my ex its complicated because i was last with my ex the beginning of march 2008 and got with the other guy the middle of march and had a period the end of march and it was said that i conceived around april 14th just by going by the 1st day of my last period, my due date was january 10th i had my son a month early, My 1st question is has ANYBODY had a period during your pregnancy, even one, or just in the beginning of the pregnancy, not implantation, a full blown period??? Because now im a nervous wreck thinking did i conceive before the period and had the period anyway?!!? i was with the guy my whole pregnancy and after but hes just an awful person and i dont want him in my sons life, my 2nd question is can i have a DNA test shipped to my home and whats the cost and are they accurate? i dont want no mean comments please this is very serious to me and ide just like a little advice and answers thank you so much!! does anybody think theres a big chance he could belong to the other guy even though i had a period? and also my son was born at 35 weeks and was 100% healthy he didnt need lights or oxygen tubes so everyone assumed my son was full term and belonged to the other guy, its all very confusing and i am going to get a DNA done i just want other opinions and answers on the period while pregnant. thanks.
can a DNA be covered under health insurance?

Does the father have any rights before birth to proof of pregnancy, Dr.'s Name, ect.?

During my divorce, I conceived a child with my then-boyfriend. My husband and I have recently decided to have this divorce decree set aside and it is null and void, so we are still legally married.This child's father is not my husband, but it's father, as I recently learned is addicted to drugs. I know this sounds very selfish, but the bio father has made this pregnancy very stressful for me and has caused a lot of trouble since I left him. But since my husband is willing to take responsibility for the child, and we are legally married, and his name will go on the birth certificate, will I have to submit the child for a paternity test if the bio father requests it? Or do I have the right to refuse because I heard that in the state of TN, if I am legally married and this child is born during the marriage, I have a right to refuse such a test.