I had a boyfriend and we decided to finish the relationship, on july 31 we had sex for the last time and part separate ways. I was very deppresed and one night my exhusband came to my house. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex (this was on August 9). On August 31 I found out I was pregnant, but I havent had my period since june because I am very irregular. My doctor made an ultrasound and told me my due date was April 25, 2007. But then I had another ultrasound that said my due date really is April 28. I am very confused and sad. I honestly never thought I will be in this position because I am not that kind of woman, but I could not think of abort. Please help me, I am desperate !!!!!!!!!!

Ok.. So here is the deal...
I was dating this girl on and off for a couple of years. Within the last 7 months, the relationship was long distance. I was going to see her once a month. She had assured me that she was on Birth Control. She told me in May that she was pregnant. I decided to move out to be with her and help her through the pregnancy. What I did not know was that she was binge drinking behind my back after finding out she was "pregnant" and continued to do so. When I moved out there to be with her, I started noticing her behavior was extremely inconsistent and that my beer was disappearing from the fridge. I also found her asking me regularly for permission to drink a beer. I told her that one glass of wine or one beer seldomly was not a problem. However, if I left the house or went outside for something, I would come back and notice more and more beer gone and her behavior becoming increasingly violent. I would also notice that upon waking up on saturday mornings she had already been awake for quite some time and was completely intoxicated. There would be 7-8 beer cans on her computer desk and she could not sit up straight, or even complete a rational sentence for that matter. One saturday morning, my mother had called me to see how I was doing. Unfortunately, she happened to pick my phone while I was in the shower. She was completely intoxicated, fighting, and cursing at my mother. I had no idea that my mother had called until she came into to town to visit a week and a half later and told me the details of the phone conversation and that she was completely intoxicated while yelling at my mother. After meeting with my mother and hearing the details, I had went home and spoke to my girlfriend. I was so furious with her that I just completely let her have it for speaking to my mother like that while being intoxicated and showing her that level of disrespect. I had also ripped into her about her constant binge drinking and what self respecting mother would binge drink like that during a pregnancy! I had told her that I didnt appreciate the level of disrespect she was showing my family, myself, and herself for that matter. I told her that I did not want to be a part of such a volatile relationship. Especially one where a mother would constantly argue with me about her drinking being ok while pregnant. I told her that if she wanted to continue her lifestyle, she would have to continue it alone; because I wanted NO part of a lifestyle like that. With that being said, a few days later; I packed up everything that I brought with me and left while she was at work. Please note, that I did not say anything about this or leave any kind of note upon leaving her and going back home.

Since then, she continues to call me and send me text messages on a daily basis. Most of them are late at night and I suspect that she has been drinking. I have decided to keep these messages by sending them to my laptop via a sound recording software. She has mentioned that she intends to sue me for child support. Is there anything I can do to help my case? Or possibly avoid payment of child support? Would it be possible to sue her for custody of the child if I present this evidence to the court and after a positive paternity test?

Please note that she never showed me proof of a positive pregnancy test, or proof of any prenatal check ups.

What do you suggest I do in this case? Am I totally screwed?

Any information would be greatly helpful!

Thank you,

Chris

How can I get access to DNA for a paternity test?
My daughter's biological father was murdered two years ago. His DNA is still on file at the coroner's office. I desperately need to have a paternity test performed but his parent's are refusing to give me permission. I can't see how this is fair or right. What can I do?
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The paternity test needs to be performed for my daughter to recieve survivor's benefits. I "desperately" need to get this done as there is a time limit. As far as the relationship went, he left when I was 4 mths pregnant and never looked back. I could never locate him to try and get a paternity test performed for child support and was notified by SSI of his death.
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Oh, and I've never met his parents. They know of me, but much like their son want nothing to do with me or their "grandaughter".

I had a relationship with this guy, won't mention his name, and in the time we were together i got pregnant to him by mistake. He is a lawyer and a massive a hole. He turned into a huge ahole the moment i told him i was going to keep the baby. Im 38 yrs so it was now or never. He said i will be going thru it on my own without his support, So i did. My daughter is now 16months and the most gorgeous little girl, she is a blessing. I believe her father should pay child support, but he won't. He said it was my choice to have her, so its my resposiblity to suppport her. I asked him if he would agree to a paternity test and he said no. I told him he should help support her financially but he said thats extortion and if i went ahead with child support he would take her off me. He's a lawyer and he said he would do all he could to take her off me if i force him to pay. I'm worried this ahole will take her off me or get access to her, he would mistreat her and i dont want that. jo

I have an 18 mo daughter and her dad, who lives in PA, has never seen her. (I left him and moved back to WY when I was pregnant b/c he was smoking pot all the time.) I filed for child support 1 year ago and he has been stalling by not returning paper work and he has yet to take his paternity test. It will come back positive when he does. In a recent email, he said he wants to sign over his rights- otherwise, he will want partial custody. He is in a new relationship and the woman he is with sent me an email a few months ago in which she said terrible things about my daughter and I. My daughter needs the support of her father, but I am uncomfortable with the idea of him getting partial custody. I am okay with him having visitation though. What are my rights? Is there a way to get at least minimum support if he signs over his rights? Is there a way to maintain full custody of my daughter? I am not married, she is not being adopted and her dad is not on the birth certificate.
The dad is Shoshoni and I am Northern Arapaho. My daughter is enrolled in my tribe. Will this help at all?
He is not employed, his gf supports him. But he does get a tribal per capita check every month. The courts have already established a monthy payment (minimum) and he owes backpay, but he is stalling on the paternity test and (as I said earlier) threatening to give up his paternal rights.
Also, he has a new son with his current girlfriend. As far as I know, they are not married. I don't know how/if this will affect anything.
I was researching and was wondering, What is a voluntary relinquishment affidavit? What are the requirments of signing one?
Thank you so much, I appreciate any insight on this extrememly complicated matter.

I am seeking visitations with my daughter. Its a long story. I was approached by a lady online in which we hit it off instantly and become involved in a relationship. She was married at the time and left her husband for me. In this time she became pregnant and eventually ended up going back to her husband. When her husband left to go to Iraq she wanted to continue seeing me afraid that maybe her husband might change his mind about accepting my daughter into their family. I have been having visitations with my daughter and seeing her mother every since he left. She started talking things over with him via email and phone. I guess because maybe she was feeling guilty. As it stands right now they want me to go to court and get a paternity test ordered and if in fact I am found to be the biological father then have visitations and child support determined by the court. One other thing he had a vasectomy done about 10 years ago in the military from what I have been told. They also are offering to try to settle things out of court as far as visitations go if I am found to be the biological father. I look forward to your reply as soon as you can find the time. I work from 5am till 3:30pm M-F but I take a lunch break from 12pm to 12:30pm. Feel free to contact me during my lunch break or after work anytime. I also have emails and instant messages from the mother as proof to all of this. I just want to be able to be apart of my daughters life. It is not her fault what has happened. I think she has the right to know both her parents and I will not turn my back on her. Thank You very much for your time.

the mother has always said my husband wasn't the little girl's father, now that the child is 12 yrs old, she decided 2 ask 4 child support, after a paternity test (finally after 12 yrs!!) confirmed he is the father. well, several "negotiations" have been held, she has only attended 1 and missed the past 2, shes the 1 filing 4 child support, if she shows no interest in showing up 4 the appts, can she be penalized? it doesn't seem fair that she could just continuously waste every ones time and continuously change her mind on decisions previously agreed to?? for example she said she'd drop back payments since my husband didn't have the opportunity 2 pay at that time as long as he showed active interest in the child's life. (Which he has done and as a matter of fact has grown to love her very much very quickly.) now she has began talkin bout paying off her credit card bills!!! Anyway, we have 4 children in our home already that we work very hard to support. The little girl is a result of a relationship prior to ours beginning.

I have an 18 mo daughter and her dad, who lives in PA, has never seen her. (I left him and moved back to WY when I was pregnant b/c he was smoking pot all the time.) I filed for child support 1 year ago and he has been stalling by not returning paper work and he has yet to take his paternity test. It will come back positive when he does. In a recent email, he said he wants to sign over his rights- otherwise, he will want partial custody. He is in a new relationship and the woman he is with sent me an email a few months ago in which she said terrible things about my daughter and I. My daughter needs the support of her father, but I am uncomfortable with the idea of him getting partial custody. I am okay with him having visitation though. What are my rights? Is there a way to get at least minimum support if he signs over his rights? Is there a way to maintain full custody of my daughter? I am not married, she is not being adopted and her dad is not on the birth certificate.
The dad is Shoshoni and I am Northern Arapaho. My daughter is enrolled in my tribe. Will this help at all?
He is not employed, his gf supports him. But he does get a tribal per capita check every month. The courts have already established a monthy payment (minimum) and he owes backpay, but he is stalling on the paternity test and (as I said earlier) threatening to give up his paternal rights.
Also, he has a new son with his current girlfriend. As far as I know, they are not married. I don't know how/if this will affect anything.
I was researching and was wondering, What is a voluntary relinquishment affidavit? What are the requirments of signing one?
Thank you so much, I appreciate any insight into this extrememly complicated matter.

after 16 years i am being told i may be the father of a child. paternity has never been proven. i have to go for test to see if i am father. the state just started looking for me in this matter. I dont mind paying support (if test prove i am father). It isnt fair to the child or me though. If i knew i had a child i would love to have been in his life. I won custody of my son when he was 5 from a previous relationship. its not like i have been running and hiding from this, it just came up last month. I hope the court doesnt try to say i must pay for the last 15 yrs though. anyone have knowledge in massachusetts law in this matter? like i said i havent been adjudicated as father yet nor has a support order been ordered by a court yet. like i said had i known i had a child i would have gone for joint custody years ago. any help would be greately appreciated. please only respond if you have knowledge in this area of the law please.